A buddy of mine went on a date last year.
Nice restaurant. Good reservation. Showed up looking sharp.
Sat down across from the girl, smiled, and said:
“So… tell me about yourself.”
She talked for 15 minutes straight. He sat there nodding. By the time she finished, he knew her entire employment history, where she went to college, and that she had a golden retriever named Charles.
He knew nothing about whether he actually liked her.
Second date never happened.
Because that’s exactly — word for word — what happens in every interview I’ve ever watched go sideways.
The candidate sits down. The hiring manager says “tell me about yourself.” The candidate talks for 5 minutes. The hiring manager nods. Nobody connects. Both people suffer through 45 minutes of theater.
And then the hiring manager turns to their recruiter and says:
“Next.”
After 10,000+ interviews, I can tell you the difference between “next” and “that’s the one” almost always comes down to the first 30 seconds.
Not the resume. Not the STAR answers. Not the “tell me about a time you demonstrated leadership.”
The first 30 seconds.
And there’s a specific 7-word move I coach candidates to use that changes the entire trajectory of the next 45 minutes. It’s so simple it almost sounds stupid.
But every time someone uses it, the hiring manager puts down their pen and actually starts paying attention.
I lay the whole thing out — what to say, why it works, and exactly what happens on the other side of the table when you use it — in Chapter 1 of my book 10,000 Interviews.
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